Adopting Older Children
Here's a great story about a family who adopted two older children from foster care. When my husband and I started the process two years ago, I was asked many times if we were adopting a baby or from another country. When I explained foster care adoption, I was often met by warnings about how the kids were damaged and came with a lot of baggage, and highly encouraged not to go above the age of five. The longer we wait for our child or children, the more I realize that though they were only sharing their concerns out of love for us, setting an age restriction like that is putting God in a box. Yes, certain things need to be taken into consideration when developing a family profile, but I'm now more than ever willing to open my home to the child or children He has chosen for us, whoever or wherever they may be. Even though our agency has us on hold until six months after our daughter is born, we are still anxiously waiting to see what He has in store, becoming foster parents in the meantime.
After I got pregnant, the first question I was often asked was, "Well are you still planning to adopt?" Some appeared happy while others appeared concerned when I enthusiastically replied, "Of course!" We were called to adopt, just as we were clearly called to have biological children, so nothing changes. God just had the order planned a little differently than we did. I still pray for my future adopted child or children just as I pray for my unborn daughter as she eagerly kicks and squirms more and more nearing the day that I'll finally meet her face to face.
If you feel called to adopt or become a foster parent, don't let doubt and fear hold you back because of something you may have heard or something another person may have said. Take that step of faith and see where God leads.